Rejection can be a lot to take and no one wants to envision themselves in such a situation. But such is life. Before we know it, we become the center of a not so perfect situation and have to get back up by picking up the pieces. We will all experience some sort of rejection once in our lifetime – even our kids. Is how we deal with those painful moments that would determine the outcome and direction of our lives. Rejections are a set up for a come back! I am a strong believer in the saying that – everything happens for a reason and there are no coincidences in life. At first, one might feel like their whole world is coming to an end, but that feeling gradually subsides as the situation becomes more apparent as we allow time to pass. Time, they say heals all wounds! There is a lesson and a blessing in every situation and is always good to keep an open mind to uncover what God has in store for us. ¨Come to me all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.¨ Matthew 11:28.
We all play a part in the rejection process because we have either rejected someone or we have been rejected by someone. No one wants to hear the word No, you are not good enough or you are not what we are looking for. We have talented individuals unwilling to showcase their talents because they are afraid of being rejected. The truth of the matter is most historians or successful figures went through several form of rejections before making their name. They are not different from us, if they could overcome it and make it big we can too. Don´t allow your fears to get in the way of the opportunities that are within your reach. Everyone falls at some point, but the true heroes are the once that pick themselves up, dust out the dirt and continue with the journey irrespective of their injury. According to Dorothy Height, ¨Greatness is not measured by what a man or woman can accomplish, but by the opposition he or she has overcome to reach his goal.¨ What are the obstacles that are preventing you from attaining your goals? Look for ways to tackle them either by speaking up for yourself, fighting the monster, or surrendering your all to the Most High to direct, correct and protect your interest. No one said it was going to be easy, but our inability to make God the author and perfecter of our faith can make the situation even more stressful. ¨I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.¨ John 16:33.
As a high school student, I rejected a lot of innocent people based on their height, size, looks and their associations – by giving them a reason why they didn´t belong in my group. But as I grow older and wiser, I realize that wisdom, intellect, friendships and the likes comes in all form. Excluding one group and accepting another would be unfair, unjust and a sin in the eyes of the Lord. Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.¨ Romans 15:7. As much as I have been a contributor to the predicament of others, I have also been victimized in more than one way. The one that mostly stuck to me was when my then boyfriend of three years called off our courtship because I brought his attention to my Nigerian ancestry and the multiple deaths occurring in my family. Mind you, we had already concluded the introduction ceremony which is like an engagement in North America. And when all this happened, I didn´t mourn, lose sleep or shed a tear over it. Instead, I pressed on, pushed hard and took it to God in prayer and use his words to challenge Him – I prayed audaciously for three nights at the same time for a faithful man who was willing to handle my family baggage and not a faithless man afraid of the unknown. And that is how I met my husband! So never you cry over spilled milk – shake it off, wipe or mop it and keep on moving and consider every exit as being an entrance somewhere else. For without distractions there will never be a successful testimony.
As it is written: there is no one righteous, not even one; Romans 3:10. We are unworthy of God´s Grace and Mercy, but yet He loves us irrespective of our flaws. I wish I could have known better earlier on, but I guess there is a reason why things happened the way they did. I have learned to give everyone an opportunity and treat them just as I would like to be treated. And refrain from judging a book by its cover, rather read the entire book to understand the wordings buried underneath the covers. Maturity they say comes with age – I would drink to that! The way a child would accept rejection is totally different from an adult perspective. We should be head strong and fight for what we believe in regardless of the negativity suppressing our ideas, thinking and judgement.
If sin did not exist, there would be no forgiveness. Without distractions, there would be no success stories. Without life, there would be no death and without rejection there would be no reflection. ¨My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ´s power may rest on me.¨ 2 Corinthians 12:9. This my friends are the promises that no rejection can ever surpass – so believe and dream big for your big break might be waiting for you at the exit door.