The tongue is one of the smallest organ of the body, but yet is the most destructive weapon available to the human body. Though useful in many facet of life, it can be very harmful if not use in the manner that will uplift others. We should be mindful of what we say, because what so ever comes out from our mouths have effects on our daily lives. “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen”. Ephesians 4: 29. It is never too late to Bless our generation and hand them over to God. Many of us have misuse the tongue, but the Bible advised us to tame our tongue – because there is power in the tongue. What so ever negative words we profess on others have effect on what they become; there is always an opportunity to rewrite the wrongs of our past by professing positive words to the young and old alike by so doing removing the veil of darkness from our tongue permanently.

Nothing good comes easy! Raising kids and maintaining healthy relationships needs work just like anything else. Many at times, our frustration brings the worst of us – we just want to yell, curse, or rebuke without being aware of our actions or consequences in the life of another. Most of us are suffering today because of a curse in the tongue from family or non-family members that was placed knowingly or unknowingly. We didn’t ask for this, but it might affect us negatively if proper cleansing methods/God’s intervention is not put in place, and in the long run, reign our entire lives. We are just victims of circumstances, but we shouldn’t allow the past to repeat itself by doing a similar thing to our kids and loved ones. “Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be”. James 3:10.

I am no saint in this area, especially with the demand that comes with raising four kids in the same age group. It can be enervating, nerve-wracking, and over whelming – kids will always be kids and do what kids their age do. We were once in this position and I’m sure we were not any different or better. I guess they are just acting their ages. And while they are at it, us as parents tend to think they are just out to get us! So what do we do? We as parents or adults react negatively – by utilizing all the slangs, fouls, or curse words unavailable in the dictionary to express our frustration. Little do we know that we are contributing to the predicament of their future. “Sons are heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him”. Psalm 127:3. Watch your tongue before you wreck a life!

Why is it easier to utter hateful, slur, or curse words, than praises, compliments, or Blessings? This did not start with us. It originated from our first parents Adam and Eve, and thus sin became a part of our human nature. It is easier to hate than to love; It’s a struggle everyone of us undergo on a daily basis being it believers or non-believers. It turn to be easier for believers because they have seen the light and have decided to draw near to God.

What we put in is what will eventually get out. This is a collective effort and we can overcome the devil if we read, listen and edify our minds with words that are pleasing to the ears. I don’t know any other way to do this rather than running to the Mercy of God – He is the only one who can remove our sins as far as the East is from the West. It takes the fear of the Lord and the Love of God to keep us away from mismanagement of the tongue. “The Lords confides in those who fear him; he makes his covenant known to them.” Psalms 15:14.

Are we friends of the Lord or friends of the devil? This is a question we must all ask ourselves sooner or later, because friends share secrets with each other and are intimate with each other. The Bible tell us that: “The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy; but Jesus came that we may have life, and have it abundantly”. Friendship with the Lord is reserve for those who fear him. Abraham/Moses were friends of God as mentioned in the Bible, and obeyed Him even when they did not understand. Taming the tongue can be a difficult thing to do, but everything is possible through him who believes. God wants to have a relationship with us, He wants us to draw near to him, then He will draw near to us. He wants to be friends with us, by doing what He commands even when we don’t understand.  

And last but not the least, He wants us to seek Him for who He is and not what He can do for us. Having all these in perspective would enable us experience His manifest presence, and in due course mold and shape our lives to be an exemplary of His. This would permanently remove the stigma from our tongue and relieves us and our offspring from the sorrows of tongue curses.  “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit”. Proverbs 18:21.